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I've had such mixed emotions this weekend. We celebrated my son's birthday - one of the happiest days of my life - but the turmoil going on right now in our country made me sad and angry and worried.

I was raised to appreciate people's differences including skin color, religion and more. My grandfather was an immigrant and was very outspoken about never reducing anyone to their physical appearance or their culture. He passionately spoke against letting any kind of prejudice take root in your soul.

He died before I was born.

It was my mom who shared his passion with me to the point that I know exactly how he would be feeling right now. He would be livid and heartbroken. I know he would be sharing these views with my children.

By most standards, my kids are too young to be racist. It is a learned viewpoint and we have never taught them anything but kindness to everyone. But as these times are showing, they are not too young to learn to be an example against prejudice, against racism. It is never too early to teach the strength it takes to stand for what is right.

It is not just enough to teach inclusion - we must teach them to fight against the injustice plaguing POC that has infected so much of our societal structure. There is no "one" person to blame so we must take on the burden of guilt as a country, as the privileged, and make it a priority in our lives to be part of the change needed.

As a mother, I became acutely aware that I must raise children who understand and are compelled to be part of the change. We cannot passively rely on someone else to do the work. An opinion is not enough. We must start in our homes and teach the next generation to be actively against the ugliness and hate that is ruining lives and tearing apart communities. We can do more outside of the home too but let's not neglect the noble calling we have to raise the next generation.

I am sorry I have not been a better example. I will not be voiceless in this fight. My actions will leave no doubt of where I stand. This must stop.

#blacklivesmatter #standup #bestrong #beanexample #endracism #momsagainsthate #strongmom #motherhood #everafterbaby

"I'm....dreaming...of a foot....massage!" *singing to the tune of White Christmas.

It's a little late for Christmas music but if you're feeling me on the subject matter - it's time to talk about feet!

When you're pregnant, everyone tells you to walk. And then when your ankles swell to unsightly proportions, everyone tells you to lie down. With my first pregnancy, I got lucky. No swelling at all.

With baby #2 - who was due the beginning of August, I got to experience the ankle disappearing act that so many had whispered (loudly) about.

BUT there was also foot pain.

I was not prepared at all. I was a cheerleader in high school and a dance major in college. I spent hours a day in dance class and never - ever - had pain like this in my feet. This was sharp pain - especially in the morning when getting out of bed - and...it got worse after baby was born. What?!?

Between working with my doctor and my chiropractor, my foot pain is at a minimum now. Thankfully, both told me that foot pain isn't something you just "have" to deal with during pregnancy and postpartum. There are ways to prevent and treat it.

I'm sharing the 3 things they had me do - to get my feet feeling great!

1. Put Your Feet Up - sounds simple enough but until you try to do this every couple of hours, you'll realize how often you keep both feet on the ground. When you're pregnant, you have a lot of excess fluid in your body and that can cause swelling. Your feet are the farthest from your heart (which is pumping the fluid) so swelling happens easily and often. Putting your feet up so that gravity can help mobilize the fluid is going to give you relief.
2. Stretching - The arch of your foot is held up and together by ligaments. The extra weight from being pregnant can stress and fatigue them causing arch pain especially when getting out of bed first thing in the morning. Stretching your legs is great but don't forget your feet and toes. Try rolling a tennis ball around the ball and arch of your foot for an extra massage too!
3. Compression vs Space - Wearing the recommended compression stockings was not ideal in July for me but taking a bath in the evening or swimming was. Both offer compression to alleviate foot pain. It was also pointed out to make sure that I was wearing the correct shoe size. It is not uncommon for pregnant women's feet to "grow" because the same hormone that loosens the the ligaments of the pelvis also has an affect on the ones in the feet. Tight shoes = foot pain and other problems like in-grown toenails. Wearing supportive shoes that were roomie was helpful.

And as a bonus suggestion - have your hubby rub your feet! This was - by far - my favorite treatment option. 

Have a magical day!

I used to watch the news every morning. I found out the weather, traffic, headlines and latest gossip from my favorite channel while I ate breakfast and got ready for work.

Then I had a baby. And another.

And now I avoid the news as much as possible.

Why?

Because I enjoy my own share of mom-guilt, mom-shame and mom-fear. The mom-guilt and mom-shame usually come from places like social media. I easily block, un-follow and remove any negativity with a few taps and clicks. I've got practice and it works for me.

But the news was the number one contributor to mom-fear in my life. Every day there is a story about tragedy. Local. Nationwide. Worldwide. There is a regular smorgasbord of diseases, shootings, sex-trafficking, abuse, addiction, bullying, death and torture that are thrown in our faces. Graphic images and video of suffering and loss and pain are layered on top of one another as a, "this is what's happening in your world" sandwich. All of it is too much for me to swallow.

Please don't misunderstand, I think its important that all of these stories see the light of day. These very real stories need to be told. People need to know what is happening. Information is not a bad thing.

But then I became a mom. And every. Single. Tragedy took on a new magnitude of reality.

I will never forget going to the movies on a date night with my husband to see Murder on the Orient Express. I am a huge fan of murder mysteries (I can hear the Murder, She Wrote theme song in my head right now as I type this) and my husband and I watch movies just about every evening before bed. We have a wide selection on our shelves. Walking out of the theater that evening, I knew I would probably never watch the Poirot remake again.

Why? 

Because the idea of my child getting kidnapped and killed is enough to give me heart palpitations. The fact that I could so vividly relate to the pain and rage that every character was experiencing and that I could so easily justify their desire to murder the person responsible for the child's death...truly scared me.

I haven't taken the test that everyone talks about but it's safe to say that I am an empath. I can easily empathize and relate to a person's situation and feelings. I can be overwhelmed when I see someone achieve something amazing and I can ball my eyes out when a person is hurting. I feel it on a personal level because I can find a way to relate.

And then there are situations that happen or that people experience that terrify me. Tragedies that make me think about what could happen to my own children. Fear that stabs right into my core and shakes my faith-held, optimistic nature.

I call it mom-fear because it is a different beast than I had ever experienced in my life before I had kids. In the throes of mom-fear, it causes me to rarely want to leave the house because all of the scenarios I can create in my head can easily be avoided by staying home. And if I do venture out, I compensate by being hyper-vigilant, anxious and over-protective. 

So when I figure out that there is something that triggers unhealthy thoughts, I tend to avoid those triggers as much as possible. Examples - I don't watch horror or war movies. I don't watch most reality TV. I don't read graphically violent novels (I can visualize too much too easily). And now, I don't watch the news.

I'm not saying that each of these medias are "bad" but each one is bad for me. Mom-fear robs me of the joy of the moment. It makes me spend the best days with my kids worrying about what will happen tomorrow. It's not healthy for me or my kids or my family.

Don't get me wrong. I still know that all of those tragedies exist. I get my current events through other outlets that let me filter out the good, the bad and the really bad. And someone else - like my husband or dad - has no problem keeping me up to date with the latest happenings around the world.

But overall I am a happier person and a healthier mom if I focus on the positive energy happening in my own little world right now. Maybe my mom-fear will go away and I'll go back to watching the news someday. But right now, I'll stick with some Sesame Street, Great British Baking Show and Project Runway. *wink*

We've been in the trenches lately. So many colds. So little sleep. So. Much. Mucus.

Too gross? Yeah, I would have to agree.

Even before I was pregnant, I dreaded cold and flu season for people with kiddos. I would see the zombie-esque parents trying to get mall shopping done with a crying toddler who's nose was red and raw. The nose was always runny and watching them wipe it on their sleeve made me want to bathe in hand-sanitizer. 

Fast forward to our 2nd fall and winter season with my toddler son and a head cold hit with full force. He was miserable and so were we...but his runny nose was under control!

Why? How? What magic fairy dust were we using?

Our Dribble Shield™ burp cloths came to the rescue! You might have thought that burp cloths would exit stage left when your little one hit their first birthday but now that I am knee deep in my 5th winter with littles - my Dribble Shield™ burp cloths are going no where anytime soon!

5 Ways I Use a Dribble Shield to Survive Cold Season

#1 - More Gentle on their Nose than any Tissue

The Baby/Toddler/Preschooler has a runny nose. If I used a fresh tissue every time I needed to wipe their nose - it would be dried out and raw and I'd be shelling out major bucks for each box of Kleenex. The soft cotton muslin of a Dribble Shield™ is absorbent without drying out their tender skin. My kids don't like having their nose wiped but the Dribble Shield™ doesn't make them cry like a rough tissue or rag would. And I don't have to feel bad about killing trees every time my baby gets a cold.

#2 - Teaches Little Ones to Wipe their Nose

My kids know what I mean now when I say, "Wipe your nose!" And because we always use a Dribble Shield™ for sniffles - they know what to grab to wipe their face. My baby girl is not even 18 months yet but she knows exactly what to do when I ask her to, "wipe her nose" (she was happy to demonstrate for the photos). Bonus is that she is also learning to blow her nose and she never uses her sleeve to wipe her face.

#3 - Assign Colors to Different Kiddos

Obviously, I have quite a few Dribble Shield™ burp cloths on hand in my house. When one of my kids gets a cold - it's almost inevitable that the other is quick to follow suit. So to try to keep germs at bay as much as possible - each kid gets their own color Dribble Shield™ burp cloth. Our morning routine includes distributing a fresh cloth for each kid and pointing out the color so they know which one is theirs for the day. It also helps us as parents because we know which cloth is used for which kid.

#4 - Bib Style Aids with Coughs and Sneezes

Even on sick days, kids still like to play. For these times, I snap a Dribble Shield™ burp cloth around his/her neck (travel bib style). Wiping their nose and coughing on something other than their hands and clothes is easy because it's just below their chin. It's also great for sneezes because it's never far away. (Just as a safety note, our kids do NOT sleep with their Dribble Shields™ snapped around their necks)

#5 - Quick Washing & Fast Drying

The Dribble Shields™ aren't made of magic germ-repelling fabric so yes, they will need to be washed...and probably more often when colds are rampant in your home. The great thing is that they can be quickly washed and dried. There have been more than a few times where I've pulled them from the washer at night before going to bed and just let them hang dry. Sure enough - the burp cloth is dry and ready to use first thing in the morning without needing to run the dryer every night.

So there are my mom hacks for sick days. What are some essentials you use to survive the cold and flu season with babies, toddlers and beyond? 

Good luck this winter...and grab a Dribble Shield!

Christmas stockings are a unique tradition that most families enjoy. Some open stockings on Christmas eve, a preview of the day to come. For others - Santa is the one who delivers treats to the stockings. For me - Santa always brought the stockings to our bedside so we had something to open and look at right away in the early hours of the 25th.

When I married my husband - he didn't really have a stocking so our first Christmas together, I bought basic stockings and customized them (my husband even had to pick out which embellishments would be on his). After I had my first child, I knew I wanted to create a stocking for him also.

I wanted a stocking that not only functioned well enough to hold treasures but could also be a keepsake that my son would "treasure." Knowing I wanted more children, I actually bought more than one basic stocking so I could make sure that they would match. They stayed in storage until my daughter was born and then I made her a stocking too. If you are looking to create a special Christmas Stocking for your baby's first Christmas - here's my how-to:

What You'll Need:

• Stocking
• Ribbon
• Name Letters (iron or sew on)
• Bells
• Trim (or narrower ribbon)
• Buttons
• Needle/Thread/Scissors
• Lighter or Matches

1. Buy a Basic Stocking - I love to sew but there are only so many hours in the day so I decided to buy a basic stocking. You can make one if you want. Make sure the stocking will function properly. It should have a loop (for hanging) and usually has a fold-over top. I chose one with no appliques or embellishments except for the four white poms on the cuff. Everything else was added by me.

Where to get it: Stockings are sold everywhere these days from Walmart to Target - from Macy's to Pottery Barn.

Tip: Don't pick a stocking that is too skinny and won't hold any goodies.

2. Ribbon for the Cuff/Name - The ribbon will act as the base for your "Name" letters. I chose a silver organza that actually had some wire on the edges. You can really choose any kind of ribbon that is cloth based (not paper). Cut a length of ribbon that will wrap around the stocking cuff + 2-3 inches extra so you can fold it over. Use a lighter or matches to burn the cut edge of the ribbon to keep it from un-raveling. Do not sew the ribbon onto the stocking until AFTER you attach the letters.

Where to get it: Craft stores like Michaels or JoAnn's tend to have a large selection

Tip: I would recommend not choosing ribbon with glitter because over the years, the glitter will fall off. 

3. Attach the Letters - Depending on your choice of ribbon and letters - you can either iron on the letters directly to the ribbon for your little one's name or you can sew them on. You do not need to be an expert sewer to do this - just sew around the edge so the letter is firmly attached to the ribbon. Once the letters are attached - sew the ribbon to the stocking. When you get to the back "seam" - fold one end to overlap.

Where to get it: Craft stores like Michaels or JoAnn's have letters although I liked the options at Michael's better.

Tip: Iron on letters have glue. If you choose to sew on these kinds of letters, your needle might get a little sticky. It can be done though.

4. Jingle Bells - Our family stockings always had bells so it seemed only natural for me to include them. I like the sounds that the larger bells made so I added three of them between the poms that were already on the stockings.

Where to get it: Craft stores and stores like Target and Walmart usually carry packages of bells of varying sizes.

Tip: Remember not to sew through both sides of the stocking when adding the embellishments. This will make it difficult to use the stocking to hold goodies.

5. Trim it Up - Sometimes the craft stores will sell packages of different Christmas trims (in my case, it was a package of metallic green ribbons and looped designs). You can also use narrow ribbon to add more decoration. I sewed trim on the "heel" of the stocking and around the cuff at the top.

Where to get it: Craft stores like Michaels or JoAnn's have trim and/or narrow ribbon options.

6. Buttons Galore - Until I had children, I had no idea that buttons were made in so many shapes and sizes. And this time of year - there are so many adorable Christmas, Snow, Nativity and more themed buttons available. I mixed buttons from several packages and added them to the cuff and toe of the stocking.

Where to get it: JoAnn's has the best selection of these (especially in-store versus online).

I made each stocking in an evening while watching TV so this is really one of those projects that gives you high reward for the amount of time invested. And when you're done - you'll have a beautiful keepsake stocking that you child will cherish all their life. 

Merry Christmas Momma!

You only get one 1st Christmas with your baby. You probably received plenty of the essentials at your baby shower but now it's time to give baby a gift. Keepsakes are great but if you want useful items that baby will love and make life easier or if you need to give the grandparents some ideas - these are our top picks for age appropriate gifts that will dazzle this holiday:

0-3 months: Yoee Baby Toy - The first baby toy designed for playing together with a newborn. Our little princess loved this innovative toy. It's very well made and easy to clean. There are quite a few animals with different kinds of fuzzy "tails" too!

3-6 months: Fisher Price Sit-Me-Up Floor Seat - we loved how much support this offered baby. It has a nice wide base which eased any concerns about it tipping over. It's also great for interacting with older siblings too! 

6-9 months: EZPZ Happy or Mini Mats - as baby begins to eat solids, this is a lifesaver for keeping messes at bay. We keep the mini mat in the diaper bag for on-the-go meal times. There are several colors to choose from and other items like spoons that are great.

9-12 months: Nesting Blocks - The fact that these all fit inside one block for easy storage makes them very appealing but actually, they were a favorite of both my kiddos (my son is 4 and still loves them). There are quite a few different designs out there from alphabet to numbers. For whatever reason - kids just love to watch block "towers" fall over. Its also a great way for you to "play" with your baby/toddler.

12-18 months: LeapFrog AlphaPup - my daughter loves to drag this puppy around all over the house. He gets beat up but it's very well made and holds up great. The pup "talks" as you pull it along which my daughter finds hilarious. As your baby gets older it introduces them to the alphabet - there's a button for each letter. 

18-24 months: Little Tikes Cozy Truck - you've probably seen the yellow and red Cozy Coupe but we found this to be much for fun for the long term. The truck is a little bigger (great for taller kiddos) and it has a "tuck bed" with tailgate which is great for "hauling" toys and other stuff. My son still loves his and he's 4. There is a plastic "floor" panel that you can install so kids can ride until they are big enough to use their feet. The handle on the roof allows parents to push it.

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In my humble opinion, there are 3 phases in life - BC, WC and GC.

1. BC = Before Children
2. WC = With Children
3. GC = Grown Children

If you're reading this then you are in phase #2 already or very nearly there (aka pregnant) and we can all agree that phase #1 becomes a blur when you venture into life with children. You can faintly remember what it was like to leave the house with a dainty cross-body purse and form-fitting (possibly non-stretch) denim. And it's likely you showered and did your makeup every day - especially if you planned on leaving the house.

Can you remember your BC (Before Children) life?

When it comes to self-care - taking time to re-charge, pamper and connect with yourself is almost a no-brainer when you're in the BC phase. Feeling stressed at work? Take a mental health day. Needing some alone time? Find a good book and stay in on a Saturday night. 

Even if you were in a relationship, it was easy to find time to breathe, de-stress and pay attention to how your were feeling. Self care happened often BC.

But now you have a baby...or more kids. In WC, life is hectic. Just the fact that your sleep patterns are based around the demanding needs of a small human being is enough to send people to the edge of insanity. We learn to deal with it because we love our babies. We would go to the ends of the earth for our little prince or princess.

But I'm here to tell you that you CANNOT give up self care for them. 

Don't do it. The results are never good.

The truth is, baby girl or baby boy doesn't want you to give up taking care of yourself. A happier, healthy momma = a happier baby. Self care is more important in this phase than ever. But it won't look the same as it did during your phase #1. It's trickier and you need to get good at scheduling it on a regular basis rather than waiting for the "check engine" light to come on.

Here are 5 Self Care "events" I follow that can help you schedule and create your own self care routine.

1. DAILY - As in every. Single. Day.

• When: Morning (like during baby's first nap)
• Time: 5 minutes
• What: Positive Affirmations

Being a mom is tough and you might have already noticed that it's easy to get down on yourself. It's easy to criticize and compare. To combat those negative feelings, you need to take a few minutes to say an affirmation like the one below (or your own version) out loud to yourself every day. (tip - save the image below to your phone) Read it to yourself until you have it memorized. How you speak to yourself matters. You will manifest whatever you tell yourself - so you need to practice being loving, encouraging and kind. Repeat it at least 3x.

2. WEEKLY - At least 1x per week.

• When: Middle of the "work week" (like Wednesday)
• Time: 30 minutes +
• What: Get Dressed & Leave the House

My husband works Monday through Friday so Wednesday is my middle of the week slump. It's also usually the day that I feel lowest because I'm resenting the grind of the routine (or lack of the routine I planned) but the weekend feels so far away. It's also usually when I discover that I am wearing the same clothes since Monday. For this self-care event - you need to get yourself dressed/ready to actually leave the house. Just doing this will make you feel better. Then get baby/kids in the car/stroller and leave. Where will you go? Wherever you need to. Go to the park. Go get drive-through coffee or lunch. Go to Target. Just drive. You just need to leave the house. Play your music. Wear sunglasses. Take selfie pictures of you and baby out in the sunshine. And when someone asks what you did today - you have something to say besides "naps" and "feeding."

3. MONTHLY - It takes a bit of planning

• When: Whatever works best for you but it must be completed by end of month
• Time: 2 hours +
• What: Do Something Just for YOU

There are just 2 rules involved with this event: (1) No kids allowed. It doesn't count if Dad takes one kid and you wear the baby while walking around a department store. You must be totally baby-free with no interruptions for at least 2 hours (no less) once a month. And (2) No checking off your chore list. It doesn't count if your parents watch the kids while you go to the grocery store. Or if your husband takes the kiddos to the park and you clean the kitchen. Does. Not. Count. You need to take at least 2 hours to yourself. Have a massage and get a pedicure. Go read a book at a coffee shop. Go shopping (for yourself - not the kids.) Find your hobbies and passions and make time for them. AND this will only work if you schedule it on the calendar. "It's the first of the month - I'm planning on taking my "me" time on Saturday, the 14th at 10am." And unless it is an emergency, don't skip it. 

4. QUARTERLY - Every 3 months.

• When: Whatever works but make sure to plan it ahead of time
• Time: All Day
• What: "Friends" Day

Believe it or not, just being with other adults is important for your own personal mental health. This event is all about planning to spend an entire day away from the baby/kids with one or more adults who are important to you. The "adults" could be close friends, a sister, a mother or even attending an event like a conference. The point is to get away from your daily routine and mingle with other people. You might notice that I didn't list your husband/partner as an option and that's because you see/talk with him on a regular basis. I highly recommend having date nights with your partner on a regular basis and taking vacations (see next tip) as just a duo but this tip is about having you connect with the other important people in your life. The ones who tend to take a spot on your back-burner when you're swamped in babyhood.

5. ANNUALLY - Make a Commitment

• When: Anniversary or same time each year
• Time: 3 days +
• What: Travel 

I am the biggest home-body you will find but even I like to get away. I'm not suggesting that you go into major debt to travel but you need to leave behind your regular routine for a few days and see another spot in the world. This could be a bed and breakfast in the next town or an adventure to another country. Do what works for you. Plus this is definitely the time to include your partner/spouse. I mention taking a trip around your anniversary because every year that you are together is a milestone worth celebrating. Don't let the mundane schedule of daily life drown out a more than worthy reason to reflect and embrace your commitment to one another. The best example you can set for your children about love is how you and your partner treat one another. You'll feel renewed and so will your husband. Remember the happier you both are, the happier your kids will be.

I want to make sure to mention that I am not a mental health care expert and if at any time you are concerned about Post Partum Depression, Anxiety, etc - PLEASE talk to your doctor right away. Ask for help. You are not alone in your feelings and there are so many resources to help you.

So what do you think? Can you make some extra room in your life to take care of yourself? Please do! Hang in there Momma - you are doing an awesome job!

Have a magical day!

I absolutely adore baby costumes! They can be precious or funny, whimsical or a tad dark - and baby can pull them off! I also love to sew...so my kiddos have had to endure my (sometimes elaborate) handmade costumes. I love getting creative and trying something I don't imagine many people have seen (cue my son asking to be a snail last year). Whether you decide to go anywhere with your little one on Halloween or not - these costumes are sure to make for some lasting photo moments.

Please note - I am not affiliated in any way with any of the makers of the costumes below. I've tried to link to original sites when available.

1.  Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz [No Sewing Required]

A gingham onesie and some adorable red shoes sell this one. Take it to the next level by gluing sequins or glitter to the shoes. Perfect for: Photos and visits

2. Burrito [No Sewing Required]

This can be easily made with a velcro swaddle sack, some felt and tin foil. Look for a swaddle sack in a cream or tan color and add a little bit of your own highlighter powder makeup or fabric paint to get the usual "brown" spots of a tortilla. Perfect for: Photos and trick-or-treating in a pram 

3. Super Mario or Luigi or Princess Toadstool [Front Pack Friendly]

This is a great way to make use of the front pack. If you have older children who want to go trick-or-treating, this is an awesome (and easy) costume for your littlest sweetie. Perfect for: trick-or-treating

4. Butterfly [Could Convert to Front Pack]

I love how photo-amazing this costume is! Find the most beautiful pair of costume wings (hang on to them because your little girl is going to love them as she gets older too!) plus a black swaddle cloth or piece of knit fabric and make a headband. I also think you could work this with a front pack - especially if baby is small and facing in. Perfect for photos (and possibly trick-or-treating with modification)

5. Jurassic (Baby) Dinosaur [Stroller Costume]

This one takes a fairly standard costume to the next level. I also like that this could works for a newborn to infant or even toddler - especially if you have a wagon to use for trick-or-treating. First, buy or make a dinosaur costume - check! Now outfit the stroller to look like a dinosaur enclosure with a bit of cardboard, tape and greenery. Mom and Dad can dress up too. Epic first halloween and totally perfect for mobile fun! Perfect for: trick-or-treating

6. Mouse Trap [Wagon Costume]

This is one of my favorites that went around Pinterest a few years ago - but I love it so much I had to include it. This one is made with a wagon and a bit of creative know-how. The wooden board is cut and painted and the metal spring piece is spray painted PVC pipe. A little bit of craftsmanship but an awesome costume! Perfect for: trick-or-treating

7. Harry Potter [Fan Club Worthy]

I totally admit to being a fan of the world famous wizard. This is such a great costume that is totally photo-worthy and also classic Halloween style. And these are not difficult pieces to find! Perfect for: photos

8. Gumball Princess [Because Tutus rock!]

I couldn't wait to put my baby girl in a tutu! This is a beautiful and colorful costume that looks great in photos but add a long sleeve onesie and some tights and it could be worn trick-or-treating. Be careful hot gluing those pom poms though! Perfect for: photos or trick-or-treating

9. Classic Pumpkin [Because why not!]

Full disclosure - this is my own kiddo/costume. I wanted a chubby pumpkin costume and totally got it with some fleece and felt (plus a mouse cat toy). This is the perfect costume for cold weather...unfortunately, we had record high temperatures and my boy was pretty much done after 10 minutes. But we got amazing photos and I loved every minute making it. Perfect for: photos. 

10. Rose [Sew-tastic]

And of course, I can't forget last year's costume of baby girl as a rose. I loved making the tutu and the felt body portion was super fun giving the costume volume without being uncomfortable for baby. I think adding little details to costumes can really elevate it beyond what you see in-stores so I made a bee out of pom poms for her head piece. This was a cozy costume but not too warm since I could use a long or short-sleeve depending on weather. Perfect for: photos

Final Tips

1. Plan for (a little) growth spurt

If you are making baby's costume - leave yourself a little wiggle room on size. Both of my kiddo's costumes started out big and were just about perfect by the 31st. Babies grow faster than you think!

2. Don't put all of your photos in one basket!

Babies are notorious for having good days and bad days. Dress them up several times to snap photos. if you wait until October 31st, you may end up with a moody and uncooperative little one.

3. Layers are your Friend

Will it be windy and rainy on Halloween - or will it not? Have some options (like long or short sleeves - shorts or pants) to use with little one's costume. This way you aren't stuck with an un-happy baby who is too warm because you make everything out of fleece.

4. Easy on. Easy Off.

No joke - you will have to change your little one's diaper when they are in costume. It. Will. Happen. Whether it's just for photos or for full on trick or treating - just wearing the costume will trigger baby to let go. Be prepared my friend and you'll be fine. 

Happy Halloween Momma!

Do you sing to your baby? If you do, it’s likely that you are among a smaller and smaller number of parents who sing lullabies to their little ones. There have been several studies over the past few years in both Europe and the U.S. that show that the younger a parent is, the less likely they are to sing to their child. 

One study of 2,000 households revealed that only 38 % of parents sing to their kids who are 5 years old and younger and mothers are twice as likely to sing to kids over fathers. (source: The Bump Magazine)

While it is difficult to pinpoint exactly why the decline in singing has occurred, there is a consensus between hospitals and parenting groups in regards to the benefits of singing to babies and young children. Not only do studies site emotional well-being and better sleep patterns as benefits but one study even found that infants born with respiratory distress did physically better when listening to their parents sing a lullaby.

1. PICK A SONG YOU LIKE

• Want to incorporate singing into your baby’s routine? You don’t have to be Beyonce or Josh Groban to get started. Pick a song that you know. Can it be a classic like “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star” or “Rock-a-Bye Baby?” - sure but don’t feel like you have to use the standard “lullaby” from generations before. You are more likely to sing, and sing often, if you enjoy the song and know it well.  Think Frank Sinatra, Bruno Mars or Carrie Underwood.

2. DON'T TRY TO SING A WHOLE SONG

• There are no rules and you’re baby will pass no judgement if you only sing the chorus of a song on repeat or make up words for sections you forget. The point is to sing! Your baby will like to hear the same tune over and over anyway because it establishes a predictable rhythm which lowers stress levels. It doesn’t matter if you can hit the high notes either.

3. TURN DOWN THE LIGHTS

• Most of us have a small amount of stage fright so to make it easier, sing in a darkened room with just you and baby - this is why nap & bed time is perfect! Feel free to use your body to establish a rhythm (a slight rock from side to side or front to back) and start with a light humming. 

We all want to give our children the best “ingredients” for success in life - consider adding singing to your ongoing parenting “recipe.” 

It’s fairly common knowledge that leaving children in the car on a hot day, even for a few minutes, is a big no-no but as temperatures soar this summer, there’s a good chance that a common stroller mistake could be putting babies at risk. Covering a stroller with a blanket to shield your baby from the sun can have a furnace-like effect, according to a recent study done by Swedish researchers. While parents and grandparents believe that they are keeping the child shielded from the sun, adding a blanket over the stroller can cause the temperature inside a stroller to skyrocket to dangerous levels.

It gets extremely hot down in the pram (stroller), something like a thermos,” pediatrician Svante Norgren told the Swedish newspaper, Svenska Dagbladet. “There is also bad circulation of the air and it is hard to see the baby with a cover over the pram.”

The newspaper decided to do a stroller experiment of its own, just to see what would happen. Here’s what it found:

• Without a cover: The temperature inside the a stroller left out in the heat was 22 degrees Celsius (71.6 degrees Fahrenheit.)

• With a thin cover: In 30 minutes, the temperature rose to 34 degrees Celsius (93.2 degrees Fahrenheit.) And after an hour, it was at 37 degrees Celsius (98.6 degrees Fahrenheit.)

The biggest increase in temperature occurred when the blanket was a solid weave (such as cotton or fleece) and the stroller or bassinet insert was completely covered so that air flow was stifled.

Young children are especially at risk for overheating and even heatstroke. Signs of heatstroke can include hot, red, dry skin; rapid pulse; restlessness; lethargy; rapid, shallow breathing; vomiting and unconsciousness. Make sure to dress your baby in lightweight, loose-fitting clothing and give more fluids on hot days. When in doubt, keep your child in the shade or indoors and see care from your doctor if you are concerned that your child may suffer from overheating.

If you do need to cover your stroller to prevent the sun from getting into your child’s eyes, use a light colored, breathable cloth that leaves space for air flow. Check on your child regularly to make sure they are not over heated. Feeling the back of the neck is a great way to assess baby's core body temperature to see if it is to warm. Please seek emergency medical attention if you believe your baby is suffering from heat stroke or other heat related illness.

Have a magical day momma!

Data Source: Baby Center 

Packing a diaper bag is one of the key skills you quickly master as a new mom (right between snapping up pajamas in the dark and pulling off a onesie after a blowout). A diaper bag should have all of the essentials for on-the-go adventures. A SUPER diaper bag has these 3 secret weapons that make it easier, cleaner and more fun when leaving the house with baby. (Plus scroll to the bottom for a promo code)

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"When we leave the house - we call it an "adventure." In every sense of the word - as parents - we are in "survival" mode; there will be challenges, bruises and a fight to keep the tiny humans alive, clean and fed. But adventures can also mean lots of fun because you are experiencing something new." - Ashlei

Power Up #1 - The Interest Catcher (not just your ordinary toy)

Over-stimulation, boredom, tiredness all occur on adventures so its imperative to bring something for baby to focus on. Focus is key for keeping a meltdown at bay because it helps baby ignore other stimuli that might be overwhelming them.  This interest catcher toy should be:

• Special - he/she will only see it on car trips. This keeps the toy interesting and different from other toys. 

• Bold - leave the neutrals at home. This toy should be colorful and fun for baby to engage with. Buttons are a HUGE plus as they enter the infant/toddler phases.

• Noisy - I hate to say "the noisier the better" so I'll put it this way - the toy should be loud enough that baby can hear it over the radio or buzz of the mall when sitting in their carseat or stroller. 

• One Piece - this is not the time for removable parts. If it can come apart - pieces get lost.

Power Up #2 - The Taste Bud Activator (irresistible edible)

Remember how I said that focus is key for keeping a meltdown at bay? An edible treat is awesome at this! Think about your most stressful day and the relief you experience when you decide to have a favorite comfort food for dinner instead of cooking. Food makes us happy and it will make little ones as well. Here are a few suggestions:

• Gripe Water - Before baby has started solids, this is an all natural, herbal supplement that can help with gas and fussiness. Just a few drops can help distract baby before they get worked up.  We also love the Wubbanub pacifier because it stays in place and offers comfort and color for baby to focus on.

• On-the-Go Friendly Baby Food - Once you have started solids - there are a variety of baby food options but we like Happy Baby organic pouches for on-the-go. No spoon required! If you make your own baby food - we like the Kiinde Foodii option to make your own travel-friendly food pouches.

• Fruit & Veggie Melts - once your baby is doing well with light chewing - we LOVE taking melts on our adventures. My 4 year old still loves them! They don't make a mess and dissolve quickly in the mouth so it's less of a choking hazard!  Perfect as a treat!

Power Up #3 - The Dribble Shield (for mom)

While the first 2 power ups were for keeping baby happy - this last one is for mom! We created the Dribble Shield cloths specifically to handle on-the-go adventures. I wanted a burp cloth that effectively kept the spit-up off me, was comfortable for baby’s sensitive skin, helped me out during breastfeeding or pumping sessions and didn’t weigh down my already loaded diaper bag. And thus the Dribble Shield was born. We call it a burp cloth but it does so much more, goes anywhere and grows with your child.
  Why we love it:

• The Perfect Size - The Dribble Shield is 3 sizes in every cloth. This means that you can go from a travel nursing cover to burp cloth to bib in less than 2 seconds. 

• Snap It & Go - Messes happen and because the Dribble Shield can easily snap onto a stroller or diaper bag - it's on hand when you need it. 

• Loop On - The elastic loop at the corner lets you connect it to a pacifier or stroller belly bar or hook or even our travel toy, the Dragon Squire. Easy to use and more playing ground patrol.

• Soft & Fast Drying - The muslin cotton gets softer with every wash, is super absorbent and fast drying. The last thing you need is a wet burp cloth in your bag.

FYI - I am not a medical professional or nutritionist so please always check with your doctor is you have questions about your baby's nutrition and follow all guidelines on baby gear & toys.

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Alright momma - go out there and have a magical day.